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Monday, March 26, 2018

The stress of being a parent

It is truly great being a mother. It's funny how you don't realize how incomplete your life is until you have children. Don't get me wrong, I loved my life and was very happy before. I was just unaware of how much greater life is with kids. Sure, it's challenging sometimes, but there is so much more love. Having tiny ones to take care of gives life much more meaning.

When you have a newborn, or two in my case, it feels like life gets flipped upside down-chaos. There is so much changing and it is a bit of a whirlwind. So much to do, so little sleep. It takes awhile to figure out what works best for you and to get into your rhythm. That first year truly was a bit of a blur looking back. It's tough being a new parent. Especially in these times. You have doctors/nurses telling you what you have to do, friends and family opinions. They all mean well. When you add in the internet it all becomes a bit overwhelming.

You just want to do what's best for your littles. I feel like there is almost too much information now a days. Everyone has strong opinions about everything and no matter what you do it seems someone else will think you are wrong. It's scary sometimes being responsible for another life. Everything has sever consequences of course too. You know if you feed them x,y,z it can lead to cancer or diabetes for them down the road. If you give x vaccine/don't give the vaccine it could be fatal. You can't just buy any old shampoo, vitamin, toy because it may have some dangerous material/ingredients. Trying to research through all that and make the best choice you can, knowing someone will say something, its a bit stressful. Just look at all the bashing over how you feed your kids, whether you breastfeed or use formula. We need to judge less and offer support more.

My point is, take it one day at a time. Enjoy this precious life. Most importantly, you are the mother, you are doing the best you can, and no matter what you choose, you are choosing what you think is best for your children. So don't feel bad for your decisions and don't question yourself. These are your kids and your life, no one else's. What works for them is great, but that doesn't mean you have to do things their way. Trust your judgment, do your thing, and enjoy your children. If it bothers people that much they can move along and out of our future. This is our life to live and as for me, I won't spend it on negative, judgy people.


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